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A Child’s Family Portrait

A Child’s Family Portrait

By: Chad Rhodes   January 20, 2018

As most children dream of lollipops, running and playing without a care, some children face a much bleaker outlook.

As I report this story I feel a great sadness in my heart. For a child who draws a family portrait that involves violence and/or sexual abuse just does not sit well with me. When children draw a portrait of the family that involves violent crimes there are usually subtle reminders in their drawings. The dad and mother are fighting, blood from scratches and the little girl or boy calling out “STOP” “STOP” to their parents or abuser. As these few drawings shows the male abuser’s penis is usually showing.

Very sad and disturbing to think we have people of this caliber in our society today.

No matter what your financial situation, your ethnic background, your social status, this domestic violence and sexual abuse is real. Many children who grow up in households with violence and abuse have become abusers themselves or victims of an abusive relationship.

I’m sure we have all witnessed or heard the cries and voices of domestic violence at some time in our lives. You very rarely hear the cries of the child who is being sexually abused.

If you know of a child who is in danger please pick up the phone and call the police and report it. You could just save their life.

I think we need to change the thinking pattern for 2018. We all need to help that person. Whether the victim places charges with the police or not, we as a community we all need to call the police and stand up for a victim who cannot or will not stand up for themselves. You can do it anonymously. No One will know it was you. Yes it is scary. But just think if it was you, wouldn’t you want someone to help you?


On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men.

1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime.

1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetime to the point in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed.

On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide.

The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide by 500%.

Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime.

Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.

19% of domestic violence involves a weapon.

Domestic victimization is correlated with a higher rate of depression and suicidal behavior.

Only 34% of people who are injured by intimate partners receive medical care for their injuries.



1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men in the United States has been raped in their lifetime.

Almost half of female (46.7%) and male (44.9%) victims of rape in the United States were raped by an acquaintance. Of these, 45.4% of female rape victims and 29% of male rape victims were raped by an intimate partner.




19.3 million women and 5.1 million men in the United States have been stalked in their lifetime.1 60.8% of female stalking victims and 43.5% men reported being stalked by a current or former intimate partner.


A study of intimate partner homicides found that 20% of victims were not the intimate partners themselves, but family members, friends, neighbors, persons who intervened, law enforcement responders, or bystanders.

72% of all murder-suicides involve an intimate partner; 94% of the victims of these murder suicides are female.


1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence.



Victims of intimate partner violence lose a total of 8.0 million days of paid work each year.

The cost of intimate partner violence exceeds $8.3 billion per year.

Between 21-60% of victims of intimate partner violence lose their jobs due to reasons stemming from the abuse.

Between 2003 and 2008, 142 women were murdered in their workplace by their abuser, 78% of women killed in the workplace during this time frame.


Women abused by their intimate partners are more vulnerable to contracting HIV or other STI’s due to forced intercourse or prolonged exposure to stress.

Studies suggest that there is a relationship between intimate partner violence and depression and suicidal behavior.

Physical, mental, and sexual and reproductive health effects have been linked with intimate partner violence including adolescent pregnancy, unintended pregnancy in general, miscarriage, stillbirth, intrauterine hemorrhage, nutritional deficiency, abdominal pain and other gastrointestinal problems, neurological disorders, chronic pain, disability, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), as well as non-communicable diseases such as hypertension, cancer and cardiovascular diseases. Victims of domestic violence are also at higher risk for developing addictions to alcohol, tobacco, or drugs.


  • Asian and Pacific Islander communities experience domestic violence at much higher rates than the general

population. 40% – 61% of Asian women report experiencing domestic violence, as compared to 20% for

White, African-American and Latino communities.

  • In a single day in Hawaii, domestic violence programs served 505 victims.
  • 41% of Hawaii domestic violence programs reported being underfunded, understaffed, or both.
  • 1 in 7 women in Hawaii has been raped in her lifetime.


  • 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men in the United States have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner.
  • On a typical day, domestic violence hotlines receive approximately 21,000 calls, approximately 15 calls every minute.
  • Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime.
  • The presence of a gun in the home during a domestic violence incident increases the risk of homicide by at least 500%.
  • 72% of all murder-suicides involved an intimate partner; 94% of the victims of these crimes are female.

If you need help: Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Or, online go to http://www.DomesticShelters.org

Big Island Residents who need HELP contact:   http://www.hawaiipolice.com/services/domestic-violence-services

Someone To Talk To

Talk person to person with someone trained to help you 24 hours a day, 365 days a year:

Hale ʻOhana (24-hour support)

Sex Assault Crisis Hotline

National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

TTY for hearing impaired

Suicide & Crisis Access Line

Teen Dating Abuse

Click to access BehindClosedDoors.pdf

Study Suggests: You Should Leave Your Pubic Hair Alone

To Shave, Or Not To Shave. Is the question…


Should you shave or should you not?

Study Suggests You Should Leave Your Pubic Hair Alone

Researchers see higher rate of sexually transmitted infections among groomers

People who groom their pubic hair regularly are more likely to have a sexually transmitted infection, say researchers in a new study. To be clear, the researchers aren’t saying that the grooming itself helps lead to the STI, reports Live Science. While it’s possible that’s the case—perhaps because shaving causes small tears that lead to vulnerability—it’s also possible that people who groom down there are more sexually active to begin with and thus more likely to pick up an infection. In scientist-speak, this is all about correlation, not causation. Still, the study in Sexually Transmitted Infections found that regular groomers were about four times more likely to report having had an STI. For the study, researchers surveyed 7,580 people ages 18 to 65 and learned that 84% of women and 66% of men had shaved or otherwise trimmed their nether regions.


Of those, 17% fell into the “extreme” category of removing all hair once a month and 22% were in the “high frequency” category of trimming daily or weekly. The greater the frequency, the greater the link to STIs. The upside for groomers: They had fewer reports of lice. For the record, electric razors were the most common method for women and manual razors for men, notes the BBC. Also of note: Of the 7,580 adults, 110 said they were virgins. Given the lack of a definitive link, how might the findings be put to use? “If a clinician were to see evidence of grooming upon physical examination, perhaps that physician should inquire about safer sex practices or a sexual history,” says lead author Charles Osterberg of the University of Texas Dell Medical School, per Time. (Meanwhile, gonorrhea is on track to defeat all known drugs in another five years.)

You may want to keep some grass on the field.

If you like things down below as smooth as a baby’s bottom, you may want to rethink things. A new study done at the University of California—San Francisco reports that people who regularly groom their pubic hair are 75% more likely to develop a sexually transmitted infection than non-groomers. As reported earlier this year, STIs are on the rise.

The survey, reported in the journal “Sexually Transmitted Infections,” included U.S. residents 18-65, asking their grooming habits, sexual behaviors, and STI history.

One of the reasons for the corellation between STIs and shaving? The act of shaving may create “epidermal microtears” that might allow transmission of bacteria or viruses like HPV.

“Our hypothesis is that grooming is positively related to STIs,” researchers wrote.

They’re not saying shaving directly causes infection, but instead leads to an increased risk of infection.

The study defined extreme grooming as removal of all pubic hair more than 11 times a year and high-frequency grooming as daily/weekly trimming; extreme groomers were found to be 28% more likely to report STIs than high frequency groomers.

“A better understanding of the relation between pubic hair grooming and STI risk,” the study says, “could lead to improved STI-reduction strategies.”

The study notes that an increase in grooming can simply indicate an increase in sexual partners — which increases the possibility of sexually transmitted infections — as it can be a preparation activity.

But it’s not all bad news for committed groomers. According to the study, removing pubic hair does eliminate certain other sexually transmitted problems, like pubic lice.

Other fun facts from the study: Men use electric razors more than women, a similar percentage of men and women use scissors, and laser hair removal or use of tweezers was rare among both.

The new trend for the melinimims is not to shave. Good choice if you ask me.

I fought the NO Shaving for a long time, until I did my own research. I found that your body odor seems to dissipate or lessen. Opening the follicles of your skin by dragging the sharp blade across your pores only leads to acne, black heads and ingrown hairs. To top it off it is possible to get infections if not properly treated. Let’s not forget about the STI’s you can get.